As I got off work and got in the car to go home, I started dreading the commute. I was thinking to myself,” There’s got to be a better way to earn a living besides driving a hundred miles a day!" My husband and I enjoy living in the suburbs, the commuting kills us!

I usually use the commute time to plan my home life. Tonight, since it was Friday, I started thinking about the weekend. I was thinking about going out to dinner with my husband. On Friday nights, we love to go to the Mexican place down the street for a wind down after the week. Kind of a date night thing. It gets us refocused after the work week.

So, I was surprised when I pulled into the driveway and saw a brand-new Toyota RAV4 with temporary tags on it. Who could be visiting? Probably one of his friends here to show off a new car. I was a little irritated. This meant a delay in our dinner plans to kick off the weekend. In addition to that, my husband has been wanting to get a Toyota RAV4, he studied articles on the best family SUVs - http://familyautoguide.com/12-best-family-suvs-2016-2017/, so I braced myself for a new conversation about that.

When I walked in the door, the house seemed quiet. I found my husband in the "man cave" downstairs, watching TV by himself.

"Whose car is that?" I asked.

"Oh, it's mine!" he replied. I could feel the heat rise in my face. "Oh, really?"

"Yeah" he continued. "I got off work early today, and I was driving by the Toyota dealer on my way home. They had a promotion going for the RAV4, so I went in to see what it was all about." I got a fantastic deal on it."

"What?" I responded. "I thought we had a rule about discussing big purchases together before buying anything this expensive. You know we're working on paying stuff off."

"I know, but we HAVE talked about it. You knew I wanted a Toyota RAV4. We've talked about it lots of times." I was really starting to get mad. "You know that's not the same as making a decision together" I replied.

"Well, my car is starting to have issues. I have to have a dependable car with the number of miles I have to drive to work. Something new with a warranty makes so much sense". All good points he made, but I was still mad.

"That is something we could have discussed. I'm really angry that you thought you could just go and make a purchase on your own like this. You've committed our family budget to something I had no say in." I was reaching my boiling point.

"Wait a minute...you thought I was spending our money? You didn't give me a chance to tell you the whole story. You know that bonus I've been waiting for? It came through. It was even bigger than we'd hoped, and it practically paid for the whole RAV 4!" He smiled at me from ear to ear.

My head was spinning as I processed what he just told me! I stopped and thought a minute. "That's great, honey!" I said. "I'm still mad you didn't talk to me about it. But not so mad now."

He looked at me and said "Let's go out for Mexican food. You can drive!" I needed a margarita right about then. I'm a firm believer that marriage works on the point system. I banked a lot of points on that day!